Esther Perel is known for her book “Mating in Captivity” (2006), “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” (2017), and her podcast “Where Should We Begin?” She is a psychotherapist and has worked in the field for years all over the world. Of all the therapists I have looked to for insight and information on how to work with couples, I find that Perel is able to track the nuances of relationships, understands trauma, and is able to really help clients bring insight into how they are in relationship. She writes in this interview:
I think a realistic vow is “I will fuck up on a regular basis, and, on occasion, I’ll admit it.” – Esther Perel
I would encourage you to read her books, listen to her podcasts, and take a look at her TED talks. I often recommend that couples listen to her podcas together, and discuss the content and reactions to each episode. She brings up questions and is able to illicit deep rooted unspoken belief systems in her work with couples. It can be helpful to discusses the tops covered in the podcasts with your partner. For the full interview in the New Yorker, please click the link below.
Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview with Esther Perel
